Why affirmations don't work
By Edith Hagenaar
O.k. I confess, I only used this title to arouse your curiosity. With which I just proved a point; language can do something within your body, and you almost responded impulsively. In this case probably out of inquisitiveness, stimulated by the unexpected pronouncement of someone who works a great deal with affirmations.
What would have been the accurate title?
Here it is: “When affirmations don’t work”.
1. You see it as a task, a chore.
When you consider saying affirmations to be a (nasty) chore, which you ‘have to’ do (although you told yourself to do it), then they loose a lot of power. This may feel strange, because you are thinking: “Is this not right, I just did say them”, but affirmations are more than words alone. When you compulsively repeat the texts within yourself they surely have effect, but not as profound as when you, out of free will, out of a deep necessity, out of a loving feeling, say your affirmations. And do not try to force it because what is – yet – not inside, you cannot push.
2. You just listen to them, but you don’t adapt your feeling.
If you hear the affirmations, write them down, think about them or say them, it is always important to adapt your feeling, your emotions, to the affirmations. Say you are depressed. Then you might use the affirmation: “I am happy and joyful”. By saying that a couple times you will indeed feel a little bit better. But did you know that YOU are the one who is master of your feelings? The moment you start to feel like you would feel when the affirmation would be true NOW, then you will strengthen the power of the affirmation tremendously. For example, you affirm that you want to ‘have’ a fantastic partner by using this affirmation: “My partner is loving, caring and very attractive”. Now you see to it that, while saying the affirmation, it feels AS IF that partner is already in your life. Create the feelings in your body that you would have if that partner would already be at your side. How would you feel? Just feel it.
3. You quit.
• Do it only when you are joyful and
free to do the affirmations;
Also you have enough strength to heal your life by using affirmations. Good luck!